Herpes Story – Pam

Pam wrote to us recently and let us know how her experience and feelings living with the herpes simplex virus. Having something that has no cure is hard but once you frame your mind to the more positive things (being alive, is helpful), you can really get going. Anyway, here is here story…

Hi, I really like your site. Let me share my own experience.
I’ve had herpes since I was 21 years old and now I am 29. I’ve been living with the disease for 8 years now and I would like to say that while at the start, it was really something that was really hard for me to accept, I have not allowed it to dictate my life and tell me how I should live. But it wasn’t easy, trust me. It took me a long time to accept what happened to me and even longer time to accept that there is no “quick fix” to what I have. It really helps to know that other people are also having the same problems in that when you can network effectively with them, you can form your own support groups. We have to stick with one another. After a while I decided that enough was enough and that I had to go on with my life.

So now, I am living the life. I don’t let the outbreaks ruin my plans. I’ve gotten used to them and they come less and less now. I’m looking for a partner although dating has not been easy I can’t blame them. There is a stigma attached to having any kind of STD.

For anyone out there I offer you my support. It’s not the end of the world.

– Pam


  1. Go PAM. We belive in you!!!!!!!!!

  2. Hey Pam,

    I have recently Been diagnosed with hsv1 on my hands (yes both) and genitally. I have been having almost back to back outbreaks, or that is at least how I feel because the padrome never seems to go way. it has given my very bad nerve pain in my legs and arm. I am searching for anyone who has had these nerve problems. I would like to know if the nerve pain will go away. I have had no stop neuropathic pain in my legs and groin for almost 7 months now. all the doctors say my case is rare and very wide spread (I also get blisters on my upper and lower legs and buttocks), but they can not give me any idea of when it may end. I am on valtrex 1000mg a day, but it does not seem to be helping.

    Any idea what I can expect in the future…will the nerve pain subside? will all future outbreaks have associated nerve pain. I do not sores very often just the nerve pain gets really bad and I get really itchy you know where. I sometimes get a red rash but it goes away very quickly but the burning itching and nerve pain remains. This is really starting to take a toll on my life.

    any advise would help

  3. Need to talk yo somene 🙁

  4. HI I too have herpes and I’ve had it since I was 15 years old.,I’m now 24 and I haven’t had an outbreak since I was 15 and I’m living and enjoying life no slow downs at all.

  5. Hi I read ur story an really liked wat I read.I recently contracted the herpes virus and I am taking it real hard. I am having trouble coping.I have only told two ppl because I am ashamed. I dont want my friends and family to judge me.I’m scared and feel so alone sometimes.I know who I contracted the virus from.I had actually fell in love wit this person.I thought she would b the one person to understand what I’m goin through.But was I wrong.So now I’m broken hearted and having to deal with a disease that I don’t fully understand.I would appreciated any advice you can give me

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